Weekly Practice January 3-9: Commitment for a Wavering Mind
Kicking off the New Year many of us have Resolutions. For the most part if we have chosen a New Year's Resolution we have already decided that what was chosen is something necessary in the process of being a more happy and authentic version of yourself. However, we might find ourselves wavering from it faster than we might want to admit. Why is this? For me its a combination of setting myself up for failure by setting goals that are too lofty or extreme to ever live up to, getting discouraged when things don't go exactly as planned and impatience! However, I wonder what would happen this year if I made a goal that was realistic, positive and that I stayed committed to with my whole heart.
Commitment is a funny thing. We can be "committed" to something or someone while still wavering in our mind. However, when this is the case we are unable to truly reap the benefits of commitment. This really applies in all areas of life, such as: our relationships, our creative projects, our career, our health routines and so much more. The example that come to mind a personal one. For me, I am brought to thinking about the years upon years I was in committed, monogamous and completely loyal relationship without trusting and committing completely with my whole heart. Although I knew I wanted to be in the relationship and that I didn't want to waver physically, I had a difficult time following the same protocol in my mind. I would constantly question the relationship, keep a guard up for most of it and find myself thinking about whether or not it was right for me. This would cause me to constantly notice things that weren't going right, behaviors that bothered me and things that upset me. I would end up spending way too much of my time in a fearful state within my mind. "Am I making a mistake?"
One day I realized that I had hit the negative rock bottom within my private mental experience within this relationship. I thought to myself, "What if I stop questioning this?" "What if I go with my heart instead of the chatter of my mind?" "What would happen if I just let my heart lead?" This was a difficult process. My mind had been leading my relationship sector my whole life. As a child I found that my mind had saved me from sticky situations, as a youth I found that my fearful mind would end up being right about untrustworthy friends & creepy men. However, I had a sneaky suspicion that in the case at point, my fearful mind was no longer helping me, it was hurting me. I would notice myself reacting fearfully to things and notice that deep down I actually wanted a hug or to express my love. Instead of trying to defend myself with some reasoning behind my actions I would tune in with what I really wanted. And more than I had ever realized that would be to show love, to hug or to spend some time alone. As time would go on I would notice I was no longer questioning my relationship. I was committed with my whole heart. My guard was down and I didn't feel like a raw guppy. I felt empowered and loving. I felt like I took my life back from my mind and suddenly I could truly appreciate the person I was spending my time with. Rather than focusing on the things that weren't "happening as quickly as I wanted", I would notice how sweet he was. Instead of comparing our relationship to others, I would see the unique and beautiful bond we had on our own. Instead of worrying about standards and plans I had in mind since girlhood, I would find myself trusting that things would unfold as they should.
The tone of our relationship would change because of this. A lot of things that were once causes for my fear and discouragement would be addressed in ways that would continue to fill my whole heart with love and the desire to be 100%. The fear's that were causing impatience were being replaced with excitement for each moment and experience. Instead of making demands on him or myself I started to feel myself going with the flow and working from inspiration and spontaneity. In just a few months, I went from feeling like I was mourning my dream life, to living it.
This got me to thinking about all of the goals I hold for myself. As we know, relationships are a mirror for our relationship with ourselves. Was I making demands on myself? Was I being Impatient with myself? Was I focusing on the negative and causing myself to be discouraged? And, as you can probably guess... yes I was.
So this year, I've decided that my goal is to commit WHOLEHEARTEDLY to myself. To my relationship with myself. To not focus so much on negativity and the fears that I will not amount to what I've planned. To not give up on me when things don't work out as quickly as I had hoped. To stick with it and go with the flow. To work more from my Heart Mind, Rather than my over thinking mind. My goal is to love myself with great self care (not self abuse) and to honor my goals, knowing that if I have them they must mean something to me. However, going about them in a way that feels fun, light and sweet. To not discourage myself with criticism and fearful self talk. But to instead commit to myself with my whole heart, know that with enough love, patience and trust my best life will be lived.
This weeks practice is intended to make us a little bit stronger so that we feel safer and whole enough to commit wholeheartedly to whatever we are working towards. We will move into a few heart opening exercises so we can become more aware of where we want to spend more of our time living from. The intention is to be strong enough to commit to living from our heart, WHOLEHEARTEDLY! The chakras that are focused on in this practice are the Root Chakra, Solar Plexus & Heart Chakra.
With blessings and an open heart,
Yoga Practice for Commiting with your Whole Heart!
Nicole Lynne Hooley
Yoga, Reiki & Intuitive Healing
Brooklyn based Yoga Instructor & Reiki Healer, Nicole specializes in teaching Personal Empowerment & Self Healing inspired Yoga Classes, Workshops & Reiki Trainings throughout Brooklyn. Her Reiki & Intuitive Healing sessions have been called "an hour of unconditional love". Nicole has been highlighted by Huffington Post and YogaCityNYC.
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